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Hi there!
Thanks for your interest in Swinglers.
Our parties are specifically kink-centered and inclusive. We focus on creating a friendly, super sex-positive welcoming space for the kinky, sexy and curious of all genders, relationship statuses, body types, orientations, and more.
Watch the video, listen to the audio, or read on below for an introduction to Swingler events.
If you're reading this, you're probably curious about what we do here — and I'm really glad you found us.
My name is Nookie, and I've been building intentional adult social spaces in the RDU area for years. Swingler is where I get to play in the sexiest sense of that word — curated, themed events where the vibe is warm, the people are vetted, and the culture is something we take seriously.
Let me tell you what makes us different...
Swingler is a portmanteau and a philosophy. We're part swinger party, part kink event — one space where both worlds collide, coexist, and get along beautifully.
Swinging, at its core, is a form of ethical nonmonogamy where partners engage in group sex or sex with people outside their partnership — commonly in a communal setting. It's about shared pleasure, exploration, and fun.
Kink is a little more expansive. It's a collective term for fetishists, practitioners of BDSM, and all the delicious niches in between.
Kink may or may not cross over into sexual play — and that diversity is exactly the point.
You might find sensation play, fetish exploration, power exchange, identity play, or full-on sex. Often in the same room. Sometimes with the same people.
At a Swingler event, you might see spanking, rope, puppy play, latex, leather, humiliation, sex — and someone in the corner happily watching all of it while sipping a beer.
All of it is welcome.
None of it is required.
Most swing spaces operate on a simple premise: assumed yes until you say no.
Bodies in proximity, touching until someone opts out.
That model works for a lot of people — but it's not what we do here.
At Swingler, we bring kink culture's approach to consent into a sex-positive, swinger-adjacent space.
That means: no until yes.
Ask before you touch.
Get explicit enthusiasm before you proceed.
We don't assume. We check in. We read the room and we use our words.
We're also proudly not heteronormative.
Sex and connection happen here in all combinations, all genders, all expressions.
We ask pronouns. We honor them.
We don't shame anyone for who they are or what they want — and we don't allow others to, either.
Whatever your flavor, you're welcome at this table. All we ask is that you extend that same grace to everyone else in the room.
You'll find a community here that is warm, playful, sex-positive, and genuinely kind. People who hug with permission and flirt with intention.
We run our events with care — which means we run them with structure. Please read this part closely, because it matters.
Registration is required. Full stop.
There are no walk-ins.
f you are not registered and confirmed, you are not getting in — and I mean that warmly but without wiggle room.
Our events fill up fast, usually within a week or two of going live.
And registration isn't instant — every single person is individually reviewed and approved as part of our screening process. This is how we keep the space feeling safe, curated, and like us.
A few things to keep in mind:
Every individual must register separately. There are no couple registrations. If you're coming with a partner, each of you submits your own registration.
Do not bring unregistered guests. Friends, partners, last-minute additions — if they don't have an email confirmation from Unbound, they will be turned away at the door. No exceptions, no on-the-spot additions.
Bring your confirmation. Have your registration confirmation pass email ready to show at entry. It's your ticket in.
I know that might sound like a lot of rules for a party — but this is how we protect the experience for everyone who made the effort to be here.
We can't wait to see you.
Come dressed, come curious, come ready to have a really, really good time.
If this sounds like your vibe, click the button below to join us. If not, that's OK — no harm, no foul. I hope you find your best-fit people somewhere out there.
More details here, in the words of some of our attendees:
$15 first-timer per person fee paid at registration
$30 per person paid to The House at the event.
We do not offer couple or gendered pricing. Everyone pays the same, everyone plays the same.
Our parties have a very different vibe than your standard swinger event, and we require a different kind of vetting as well. All new Swinglers will need to get registered (every individual must register on their own—we don't do couple registrations).
Every Swingler must be approved to attend by one of our hosts/mods.
Every Swingler may be vetted by phone or video, if not a member of the Unbound discord server.
Because this is a no-holds-barred party AND we allow singles, these requirements are in place to assure that the overall vibe is right.
Follow us there to RSVP to events, get on our invitation list, and keep up with mixers and community.